What would it take for you to help me recognise the value in me that I struggle to see?
What would it take for you to see me differently?
Why am i not good enough?
What if I was never the problem?
If I’m not good enough… who taught me that?
How many times did I have to show pain before someone chose to see me?”
I’m the pain you didn’t ask about.
What didnt you see?
What didn't you want to see?
Did you know?
Did you see my behaviour… or did you see me?
You saw the behaviour. Did you ever ask why?
Look past what I did… and see what happened to me.
My behaviour is loud… but my story is louder.
Don’t judge the reaction if you don’t understand the reason.
I’m not the behaviour you see… I’m the pain you didn’t ask about.
Every behaviour has a story… did you care enough to hear mine?
You judged what I did… but missed what I’ve been through.
I didn’t need punishment… I needed understanding.
If you only see behaviour… you’ll miss the child completely.
It’s not what’s wrong with me… it’s what happened to me.
The behaviour isn’t the problem… it’s the clue.
Stop asking “what’s wrong with them?”
Start asking “what happened to them?”
You called it bad behaviour… I called it survival.
Did you see my behaviour… or did you see me?
You saw the behaviour. Did you ever ask why?
Look past what I did… and see what happened to me.
My behaviour is loud… but my story is louder.
Don’t judge the reaction if you don’t understand the reason.
I’m not the behaviour you see… I’m the pain you didn’t ask about.
Every behaviour has a story… did you care enough to hear mine?
You judged what I did… but missed what I’ve been through.
I didn’t need punishment… I needed understanding.
If you only see behaviour… you’ll miss the child completely.
It’s not what’s wrong with me… it’s what happened to me.
The behaviour isn’t the problem… it’s the clue.
Stop asking “what’s wrong with them?”
Start asking “what happened to them?”
You called it bad behaviour… I called it survival.
Did you see my behaviour… or did you see me?
You saw the behaviour. Did you ever ask why?
Look past what I did… and see what happened to me.
My behaviour is loud… but my story is louder.
Don’t judge the reaction if you don’t understand the reason.
I’m not the behaviour you see… I’m the pain you didn’t ask about.
Every behaviour has a story… did you care enough to hear mine?
You judged what I did… but missed what I’ve been through.
I didn’t need punishment… I needed understanding.
If you only see behaviour… you’ll miss the child completely.
It’s not what’s wrong with me… it’s what happened to me.
The behaviour isn’t the problem… it’s the clue.
Stop asking “what’s wrong with them?”
Start asking “what happened to them?”
You called it bad behaviour… I called it survival.
Did you see my behaviour… or did you see me?
You saw the behaviour. Did you ever ask why?
Look past what I did… and see what happened to me.
My behaviour is loud… but my story is louder.
Don’t judge the reaction if you don’t understand the reason.
I’m not the behaviour you see… I’m the pain you didn’t ask about.
Every behaviour has a story… did you care enough to hear mine?
You judged what I did… but missed what I’ve been through.
I didn’t need punishment… I needed understanding.
If you only see behaviour… you’ll miss the child completely.
It’s not what’s wrong with me… it’s what happened to me.
The behaviour isn’t the problem… it’s the clue.
Stop asking “what’s wrong with them?”
Start asking “what happened to them?”
You called it bad behaviour… I called it survival.
Did you see my behaviour… or did you see me?
You saw the behaviour. Did you ever ask why?
Look past what I did… and see what happened to me.
My behaviour is loud… but my story is louder.
Don’t judge the reaction if you don’t understand the reason.
I’m not the behaviour you see… I’m the pain you didn’t ask about.
Every behaviour has a story… did you care enough to hear mine?
You judged what I did… but missed what I’ve been through.
I didn’t need punishment… I needed understanding.
If you only see behaviour… you’ll miss the child completely.
It’s not what’s wrong with me… it’s what happened to me.
The behaviour isn’t the problem… it’s the clue.
Stop asking “what’s wrong with them?”
Start asking “what happened to them?”
You called it bad behaviour… I called it survival.
Did you see my behaviour… or did you see me?
You saw the behaviour. Did you ever ask why?
Look past what I did… and see what happened to me.
My behaviour is loud… but my story is louder.
Don’t judge the reaction if you don’t understand the reason.
I’m not the behaviour you see… I’m the pain you didn’t ask about.
Every behaviour has a story… did you care enough to hear mine?
You judged what I did… but missed what I’ve been through.
I didn’t need punishment… I needed understanding.
If you only see behaviour… you’ll miss the child completely.
It’s not what’s wrong with me… it’s what happened to me.
The behaviour isn’t the problem… it’s the clue.
Stop asking “what’s wrong with them?”
Start asking “what happened to them?”
You called it bad behaviour… I called it survival.
Did you see my behaviour… or did you see me?
You saw the behaviour. Did you ever ask why?
Look past what I did… and see what happened to me.
My behaviour is loud… but my story is louder.
Don’t judge the reaction if you don’t understand the reason.
I’m not the behaviour you see… I’m the pain you didn’t ask about.
Every behaviour has a story… did you care enough to hear mine?
You judged what I did… but missed what I’ve been through.
I didn’t need punishment… I needed understanding.
If you only see behaviour… you’ll miss the child completely.
It’s not what’s wrong with me… it’s what happened to me.
The behaviour isn’t the problem… it’s the clue.
Stop asking “what’s wrong with them?”
Start asking “what happened to them?”
You called it bad behaviour… I called it survival.
Did you see my behaviour… or did you see me?
You saw the behaviour. Did you ever ask why?
Look past what I did… and see what happened to me.
My behaviour is loud… but my story is louder.
Don’t judge the reaction if you don’t understand the reason.
I’m not the behaviour you see… I’m the pain you didn’t ask about.
Every behaviour has a story… did you care enough to hear mine?
You judged what I did… but missed what I’ve been through.
I didn’t need punishment… I needed understanding.
If you only see behaviour… you’ll miss the child completely.
It’s not what’s wrong with me… it’s what happened to me.
The behaviour isn’t the problem… it’s the clue.
Stop asking “what’s wrong with them?”
Start asking “what happened to them?”
You called it bad behaviour… I called it survival.
You saw defiance… I was trying to cope.
You saw attitude… I was carrying pain.
You stopped at the behaviour. That’s where you failed me.
You saw what I did… but not what led me there.
Behaviour is the outcome… not the origin.
Don’t stop at what’s visible.
What you see is the surface… not the story.
There’s always more than what you’re reacting to.
Before you judge me… try to understand me.
I needed someone to understand… not someone to react.
Behind every reaction is something unresolved.
I wasn’t trying to be difficult… I was struggling.
What you saw was a moment… not my whole story.
What if the behaviour is the message?
What if this is how I learned to survive?
You saw defiance… I was trying to cope.
You saw attitude… I was carrying pain.
You stopped at the behaviour. That’s where you failed me.
You saw what I did… but not what led me there.
Behaviour is the outcome… not the origin.
Don’t stop at what’s visible.
What you see is the surface… not the story.
There’s always more than what you’re reacting to.
Before you judge me… try to understand me.
I needed someone to understand… not someone to react.
Behind every reaction is something unresolved.
I wasn’t trying to be difficult… I was struggling.
What you saw was a moment… not my whole story.
What if the behaviour is the message?
What if this is how I learned to survive?
You saw defiance… I was trying to cope.
You saw attitude… I was carrying pain.
You stopped at the behaviour. That’s where you failed me.
You saw what I did… but not what led me there.
Behaviour is the outcome… not the origin.
Don’t stop at what’s visible.
What you see is the surface… not the story.
There’s always more than what you’re reacting to.
Before you judge me… try to understand me.
I needed someone to understand… not someone to react.
Behind every reaction is something unresolved.
I wasn’t trying to be difficult… I was struggling.
What you saw was a moment… not my whole story.
What if the behaviour is the message?
What if this is how I learned to survive?
You saw defiance… I was trying to cope.
You saw attitude… I was carrying pain.
You stopped at the behaviour. That’s where you failed me.
You saw what I did… but not what led me there.
Behaviour is the outcome… not the origin.
Don’t stop at what’s visible.
What you see is the surface… not the story.
There’s always more than what you’re reacting to.
Before you judge me… try to understand me.
I needed someone to understand… not someone to react.
Behind every reaction is something unresolved.
I wasn’t trying to be difficult… I was struggling.
What you saw was a moment… not my whole story.
What if the behaviour is the message?
What if this is how I learned to survive?
You saw defiance… I was trying to cope.
You saw attitude… I was carrying pain.
You stopped at the behaviour. That’s where you failed me.
You saw what I did… but not what led me there.
Behaviour is the outcome… not the origin.
Don’t stop at what’s visible.
What you see is the surface… not the story.
There’s always more than what you’re reacting to.
Before you judge me… try to understand me.
I needed someone to understand… not someone to react.
Behind every reaction is something unresolved.
I wasn’t trying to be difficult… I was struggling.
What you saw was a moment… not my whole story.
What if the behaviour is the message?
What if this is how I learned to survive?
You saw defiance… I was trying to cope.
You saw attitude… I was carrying pain.
You stopped at the behaviour. That’s where you failed me.
You saw what I did… but not what led me there.
Behaviour is the outcome… not the origin.
Don’t stop at what’s visible.
What you see is the surface… not the story.
There’s always more than what you’re reacting to.
Before you judge me… try to understand me.
I needed someone to understand… not someone to react.
Behind every reaction is something unresolved.
I wasn’t trying to be difficult… I was struggling.
What you saw was a moment… not my whole story.
What if the behaviour is the message?
What if this is how I learned to survive?
You saw defiance… I was trying to cope.
You saw attitude… I was carrying pain.
You stopped at the behaviour. That’s where you failed me.
You saw what I did… but not what led me there.
Behaviour is the outcome… not the origin.
Don’t stop at what’s visible.
What you see is the surface… not the story.
There’s always more than what you’re reacting to.
Before you judge me… try to understand me.
I needed someone to understand… not someone to react.
Behind every reaction is something unresolved.
I wasn’t trying to be difficult… I was struggling.
What you saw was a moment… not my whole story.
What if the behaviour is the message?
What if this is how I learned to survive?
You saw defiance… I was trying to cope.
You saw attitude… I was carrying pain.
You stopped at the behaviour. That’s where you failed me.
You saw what I did… but not what led me there.
Behaviour is the outcome… not the origin.
Don’t stop at what’s visible.
What you see is the surface… not the story.
There’s always more than what you’re reacting to.
Before you judge me… try to understand me.
I needed someone to understand… not someone to react.
Behind every reaction is something unresolved.
I wasn’t trying to be difficult… I was struggling.
What you saw was a moment… not my whole story.
What if the behaviour is the message?
What if this is how I learned to survive?
What if this is the only way I know how to cope?
What if you’re reacting to pain… not attitude?
What if you’re missing the most important part?
You saw the behaviour… but you didn’t stay curious.
You reacted fast… but understood nothing.
It was easier to judge than to understand.
You focused on control… instead of connection.
You managed the behaviour… and ignored the cause.
Behaviour is communication… are you listening?
What you call behaviour… I call a response.
The behaviour isn’t random… it’s learned.
You’re seeing the effect… not the cause.
Every behaviour makes sense… if you understand enough.
Did you see my behaviour… or did you see me?
You saw the behaviour. Did you ever ask why?
What if this is the only way I know how to cope?
What if you’re reacting to pain… not attitude?
What if you’re missing the most important part?
You saw the behaviour… but you didn’t stay curious.
You reacted fast… but understood nothing.
It was easier to judge than to understand.
You focused on control… instead of connection.
You managed the behaviour… and ignored the cause.
Behaviour is communication… are you listening?
What you call behaviour… I call a response.
The behaviour isn’t random… it’s learned.
You’re seeing the effect… not the cause.
Every behaviour makes sense… if you understand enough.
Did you see my behaviour… or did you see me?
You saw the behaviour. Did you ever ask why?
What if this is the only way I know how to cope?
What if you’re reacting to pain… not attitude?
What if you’re missing the most important part?
You saw the behaviour… but you didn’t stay curious.
You reacted fast… but understood nothing.
It was easier to judge than to understand.
You focused on control… instead of connection.
You managed the behaviour… and ignored the cause.
Behaviour is communication… are you listening?
What you call behaviour… I call a response.
The behaviour isn’t random… it’s learned.
You’re seeing the effect… not the cause.
Every behaviour makes sense… if you understand enough.
Did you see my behaviour… or did you see me?
You saw the behaviour. Did you ever ask why?
What if this is the only way I know how to cope?
What if you’re reacting to pain… not attitude?
What if you’re missing the most important part?
You saw the behaviour… but you didn’t stay curious.
You reacted fast… but understood nothing.
It was easier to judge than to understand.
You focused on control… instead of connection.
You managed the behaviour… and ignored the cause.
Behaviour is communication… are you listening?
What you call behaviour… I call a response.
The behaviour isn’t random… it’s learned.
You’re seeing the effect… not the cause.
Every behaviour makes sense… if you understand enough.
Did you see my behaviour… or did you see me?
You saw the behaviour. Did you ever ask why?
What if this is the only way I know how to cope?
What if you’re reacting to pain… not attitude?
What if you’re missing the most important part?
You saw the behaviour… but you didn’t stay curious.
You reacted fast… but understood nothing.
It was easier to judge than to understand.
You focused on control… instead of connection.
You managed the behaviour… and ignored the cause.
Behaviour is communication… are you listening?
What you call behaviour… I call a response.
The behaviour isn’t random… it’s learned.
You’re seeing the effect… not the cause.
Every behaviour makes sense… if you understand enough.
Did you see my behaviour… or did you see me?
You saw the behaviour. Did you ever ask why?
What if this is the only way I know how to cope?
What if you’re reacting to pain… not attitude?
What if you’re missing the most important part?
You saw the behaviour… but you didn’t stay curious.
You reacted fast… but understood nothing.
It was easier to judge than to understand.
You focused on control… instead of connection.
You managed the behaviour… and ignored the cause.
Behaviour is communication… are you listening?
What you call behaviour… I call a response.
The behaviour isn’t random… it’s learned.
You’re seeing the effect… not the cause.
Every behaviour makes sense… if you understand enough.
Did you see my behaviour… or did you see me?
You saw the behaviour. Did you ever ask why?
What if this is the only way I know how to cope?
What if you’re reacting to pain… not attitude?
What if you’re missing the most important part?
You saw the behaviour… but you didn’t stay curious.
You reacted fast… but understood nothing.
It was easier to judge than to understand.
You focused on control… instead of connection.
You managed the behaviour… and ignored the cause.
Behaviour is communication… are you listening?
What you call behaviour… I call a response.
The behaviour isn’t random… it’s learned.
You’re seeing the effect… not the cause.
Every behaviour makes sense… if you understand enough.
Did you see my behaviour… or did you see me?
You saw the behaviour. Did you ever ask why?
What if this is the only way I know how to cope?
What if you’re reacting to pain… not attitude?
What if you’re missing the most important part?
You saw the behaviour… but you didn’t stay curious.
You reacted fast… but understood nothing.
It was easier to judge than to understand.
You focused on control… instead of connection.
You managed the behaviour… and ignored the cause.
Behaviour is communication… are you listening?
What you call behaviour… I call a response.
The behaviour isn’t random… it’s learned.
You’re seeing the effect… not the cause.
Every behaviour makes sense… if you understand enough.
Did you see my behaviour… or did you see me?
You saw the behaviour. Did you ever ask why?
About us
Richard
Foster Parent
I come from a life where there was a time when I had no home, no safety, and no sense of belonging. I was a child who could not be fostered, drifting between the streets and group homes. I was not seen. I was not heard. I was labelled. I was dismissed and physically abused by the very people who were supposed to protect me. Surviving homelessness as a child—born from domestic and family violence
Naji
Foster Parent
I come from a life where I was always loved, supported, and protected. I was raised in a stable home with parents who worked hard, cared deeply, and made sure my brother, my sisters, and I had every opportunity to succeed. A childhood built on strong family values, private schooling, good education, and the kind of security I believed was every ones reality.